Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs Paperback – Large Print, April 16, 2010
Author: Dr. Emerson Eggerichs ID: 1594153205
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Discover the Single Greatest Secret to a Successful Marriage
Psychological studies affirm it, and the Bible has been saying it for ages. Cracking the communication code between husband and wife involves understanding one thing: that unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her. It’s the secret to marriage that every couple seeks, and yet few couples ever find.
Today, you and your mate can start fresh with the ground-breaking guidance that Dr. Emerson Eggerichs provides in this book. His revolutionary message, featured on Focus on the Family, is for anyone: in marital crisis…wanting to stay happily married…who’s feeling lonely. It’s for engaged couples…victims of affairs…pastors and counselors seeking material that can save a marriage.
Using Dr. Eggerich’s breakthrough techniques, couples nationwide are achieving a brand-new level of intimacy and learning how to: – stop the Crazy Cycle of conflict – initiate the Energizing Cycle of change – enjoy the Rewarded Cycle of new passion
And if you’ll take this biblically based counsel to heart, your marriage could be next!
–This text refers to the Hardcover edition.
About the Author
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, an internationally known expert on male-female relationships, presents the Love & Respect conference with his wife, Sarah, both live and by video to more than 50,000 people each year, including groups such as the NFL, PGA, and members of congress. With degrees from Wheaton College and Dubuque Seminary and a PhD from Michigan State, Emerson pastored Trinity Church in Lansing for 19 years. He and Sarah have been married since 1973 and have three children.
–This text refers to the Hardcover edition.
Paperback: 524 pagesPublisher: Christian Large Print; Lrg edition (April 16, 2010)Language: EnglishISBN-10: 1594153205ISBN-13: 978-1594153204 Product Dimensions: 5 x 1 x 9 inches Shipping Weight: 1.1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies) Best Sellers Rank: #3,313 in Books (See Top 100 in Books) #2 in Books > Large Print > Religion & Spirituality #21 in Books > Christian Books & Bibles > Christian Living > Marriage #30 in Books > Parenting & Relationships > Marriage & Adult Relationships
I thought the principal behind the book was something that will help virtually every married couple. My husband and I laughed at sections b/c we found some of the anecdotes so spot on to our daily lives. Eggerichs clearly explained to us why we keep going through the "Crazy Cycle." The Respect/Love needs in men/women is potentially a marriage saver or breaker.
I have 2 constructive criticisms of the book. I still recommend this book, however I do give these caveats:
1. This book talks as if men know how to love their wives. There may be a million books out there on how to do it, but we didn’t have those. My husband and I were reading this one. And I grew weary of hearing how women needed to learn to respect their husbands. Frankly, I grasped the principal within the first few pages. After a few chapters, I felt like rolling my eyes a little. Because he paid so little attention to talking about how men should love their wives, it felt like that part was very trivialized. I understand that was not the point, however, the title was "Love & Respect", not just "Respect."
2. I would have liked more tangible examples of exactly what it means to "Respect" my husband. I want to do it. And he made it clear that "nagging, complaining, and whining" at him were disrespectful. But I need more examples. What are the active things I can do? Is it disrespectful to remind my husband to take the garbage out the night before? If it is, then how do I make sure the task gets done w/out reminding him? It isn’t an issue of control, but I have to get the kids out the door in the morning and I need help and I need him to do this one thing. Make sense?
The good:
1) I like the connection between love and respect. Every time he says husbands need respect and wives need love, you have to translate that mentally into *both* husbands *and* wives need love *and* respect, but the basic premise is a good one — the Christian understanding of love indicates an attitude of honoring, respecting, and blessing the other person.
2) The crazy cycle and reward cycle. This is one of the most important things most couples could learn. Our behaviors are self-reinforcing and good things to lead to more good things in a cycle. Likewise, bad things often lead to more bad things. The good news is that we serve a God of redemption and just as the gospel message teaches us that Christ breaks us out of a cycle of sin, God can redeem broken marriages and break them out of destructive cycles.
3) For *some* couples, a disrespectful attitude toward the husband or an unloving attitude toward the wife *is* the problem. For those relationships, I imagine they would benefit greatly from this book.
The not-so-good:
1) As mentioned by several reviewers already, the book is incredibly sexist. I started making a `W’ in the margins when Dr. Eggerichs blamed the wife for the problem and a `H’ when he blamed the husband. Skimming back through, it’s about 90% W’s. Just about any time he says something negative about the husband, you are almost guaranteed to get a follow-up sentence about how his wife’s pettiness or nagging or belittling comments or criticizing or bitterness or whatever was really the root cause of the husband’s behavior.
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